Sometimes life can feel like the easiest thing in the world. At others, it can seem anything but straightforward. It’s the big things that can really throw us off course, such as when we break up with a long-term partner. Even if you know it’s the right thing, that doesn’t always make it any easier. When you’ve spent so many years with one person, it’s not realistic to think that you’ll come out the other side and just get on with your life. In this blog, we take a look at how you can get over a serious breakup.

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What Lies Ahead

First thing’s first: you’ve got to accept what lies ahead. It could be the best situation for all parties concerned, but you’ll still have low and difficult moments. The important thing is to keep things in context, and to accept that what you’re going through is completely normal. It’s a cliche to say that time will heal all wounds, but it’s also true. It’s just that things might have to get worse before they get better. You’re going to embark on a new stage of your life, and that will always feel a little scary.

The Basics

It’s oh so easy to fall into a negative cycle when we’re feeling a little low. You could be eating unhealthy foods, drinking too much, and staying indoors more than normal. This is fine for a week or two, but beyond that, it can be problematic. It’s not about snapping yourself into a happy state of mind and living life as normal, it’s just about taking care of the basics that you know will be beneficial in the long-term. Staying mindful of your alcohol consumption, meditating, and staying active really will all help you to feel better than if you didn’t do those things. 

What’s Rightfully Yours

Part of the issue of breaking up after a long time is that your lives will be so intertwined. There’ll be a shared life that needs to be divided up. Ideally, you’d have broken up on friendly terms, so these issues can be resolved peacefully. But sometimes, that won’t be the case, and you’ll need to fight for what’s yours. This could involve working with a lawyer to get any financial settlement you’re entitled to (for example, if you owned a home together), or looking up the rights of unmarried fathers if you had children. When the relationship ends, it’ll likely be these things that matter the most to you.

Friends and Family

Your friends and family will be an invaluable resource when it comes to getting over your breakup. The end of a relationship can feel like a lonely experience, in large part because you will likely find yourself literally alone. Be sure to spend time with your friends and family. They won’t mind if you’re not as cheerful as normal; they know that you’re going through a difficult period. They can provide the support you need to get back to your best.