When Things Don't Go According To Plan | #CP


As parents, all we ever wanted is for our children to have a good upbringing, and all the tools that they need to do well in life. We do our best, to give them what we didn’t have his children, and to support them as best as we can. But sometimes things don’t go to plan the way we helped, and we have to help the children deal with these changes, and upsets along the way. This is part of life, and it’s not always a bad thing for children to learn this quite young since it teaches them how to overcome obstacles, and not allow them to affect us too much. But what sorts of things can crop up and tip the balance? And how do we deal with them when they occur?

Relationships
We all have an idea of what we can do to help our relationship, but it doesn’t always work as planned. Relationships break down, and sometimes we need to hire divorce solicitors to deal with the situation. Obviously, this is a last resort and if a marriage can be saved then everything should be done to try and save it. However, sometimes things just don't work out and couples may be a lot happier if they separate. Whilst this is sad, it is often the case. If this situation sounds familiar to you, whether you are in a same-sex marriage or a heterosexual marriage, then it might be time to start your Peters and May journey towards an amicable divorce. This can, of course, upset children along the way if they are involved. But each family will have its own struggles during the process that are unique to their own situation. If you are open with your children, and help them understand the process, you will end up with children who aren’t too unsettled by it. Teaching children that things sometimes change and are beyond their control, but teaching them how to overcome this problem, can be life-changing.

Relocation
Sometimes families need to relocate for work, for safety reasons, and sometimes relocation can be a little bit of a distance. But preparing your children beforehand, helping them pack their belongings safely, and talking them through the whole process will benefit your children over time. Building resilience, and teaching children how to relocate, and make new friends, is going to really help the children settle! 

Schools
When applying for school places, you always hope that you will get your first choice. But with oversubscribed schools, and more people moving into different areas, you may not find yourself again in your primary choice school for your children, if this is the school that their friends are going to, then you’re going to have to support your child through this upsetting time. But reminding your children how quickly they will find friends, and forget all about the other school before they know it, can help. It may seem devastating, and it may cause some problems with a separate cooler that they don’t know already in school. Still, eventually, your children will Thank you for doing the best for them over time finally!

Just being there for your children during these be changes is more than enough, many parents don’t know themselves during these times, but remember that everyone survived and came out the other side. Generally, people are stronger, and children learn to deal with adversity at a young age and take their lessons from S and how we deal with things. If you are someone who enjoys the peace and quiet, then that’s an option, but if you would like to find out anything else, then you have the resources at your fingertips.

*This post was written in collaboration with a third party, the words expressed are my own*


Karl Young

Part-time daddy and lifestyle blogger. Father of 2 boys under 2. Golfer, scare-fan, tea-lover, traveller, squash and poker player. I write on the @HuffPostUK http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/karl-young/

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