Good Parent Bad Parent | #CP

There's definitely still the good parent and the bad parent in most parent situations. Gone are the days where it used to be dad who was the Mr nice guy and mum was the one who was shouting the orders around all of the time. Now it's pretty equal and there's no telling who is going to be the one who's the good parent and who's the bad one. It ultimately does define the relationship you're able to have with your children. Play the bad cop too much and they don't want to come to you for anything at all. But play the good parent too much and you run the risk of becoming the parent that they can walk all over, which you definitely don't want when you're dealing with children who are finding their feet in the world. So, we're going to talk you through what the bad parent and good parent situation is, when it might come into play, and how you can make sure that you can be the perfect balance of the two. Keep on reading to find out more. 

What Is The Perfect Split? 

So the perfect split depends on the children you have and how many times you need to be one or the other. Some people have angel children who never do anything wrong, which means when they get to the stage of starting to do something a little wrong, the parents are too afraid to discipline because they've never really had to do it before. So you get the problem of treading on eggshells around the child letting them know that they have the power. So, the perfect split to us would be making sure that you're only being the enforcer when you need to be, and making sure that you're only being nicey nice when they are. React to how they're behaving and realise what normal child behaviour is. For example, if they steal from another child when playing it's time for bad cop to come out. If they don't clean their toys away you shouldn't come in shouting and balling. So you see, there is a balance to find and it'll be your own personal experiences that define it. 

Keeping A Happy Balance

To keep a happy balance we think you have to be on their level. You have to be the parent that's getting involved in everything they do. In the modern day this is gaming, for both boys and girls. It's the perfect way to keep the peace in the home, and gaming advances in the future are making it far easier than ever before to be able to play. Or, if it means getting on the floor and playing with their dolls, that's what you should be doing. Keeping a happy balance largely depends on being able to connect with the things that they like doing. It prevents the bad cop from needing to come out more often. 

Which Side Are You Taking? 

So, which side are you going to take? Hopefully after reading this you will have realised that there is no side to take, and parenting works far better if you're both sticking to the tactics that you need to use.